I had a conversation with some guys today where I shared how I view attractive women. I agree looks matter. But looks are also deceiving. People may or may not believe me when I say that a super model is not attractive to me. OK, pause right there. Yes she may be beautiful, but I've spent so much time with Jesus that if I don't sense the same spirit of faith on a lady all attraction goes out the window (all that may be left would be lust). Lust is an attraction, and I'm not perfect, I fall, I sin, I REPENT! I SAID I REPENT! The hidden man of the heart is truly what I'm looking for. Do I need the physical attraction, yes I do. I'd like to be so humble as to say that doesn't really matter to me, but then I'd be lying to bring some sort of glory to my fake holiness. Yes physical attraction is needed but I'll be obedient to the Lord's will in marriage. I want to say another thing too, If God called me to marry a girl that wasn't that attractive to me, I know that my love would cover the imperfections and what isn't seen as perfection before has become much much more beautiful. I'd rather be blinded by my own love then deceived by my own sinful lust. When you grow old, you don't usually grow more beautiful, but somehow those who are greatly joined together with love and with God in the middle, infuse a bond together in holiness that can't be broken. I am just going to let you know that the bond had very little to do with the looks of your mate. That bond isn't skin deep. It comes from much deeper within. If your love and attraction is based purely on the body of the other then it is based solely on the lust of the eyes. It is worldly and is impure. And I'm afraid for that person because in the years to come if they never have that infusion of love bonding them together then when the body begins to wrinkle and age, the love (lust) will also begin to fade away.
King Solomon who was more than a master instructor in this subject due to his mighty experience and adulterous actions, spoke on the very subject. (Proverbs 5) A man having over a 1000 partners instructs by the wisdom of God to stay in love with the wife of your youth. With much regret I'm sure he wrote this. He instructs the young man to "always" be captivated by her love (to the end folks). Do you think looks alone can do this? Passion can be one night, or it can last months, or it can be on "PURPOSE" for a lifetime. Being captivated with her love, would be an action for the man to proactively STAY in love. Without being to graphic the King says to let her breast "SATISFY" you always. Do you really think an old ladies breast are going to be very visually captivating or do you think you have to choose to be in love? It would be better to just give yourself to someone that isn't just a nice catch or a pretty face. The love must be much deeper within. Much more he says but one more thing I want to mention from this passage is the warning of having a heart that goes after the flesh alone. Instead of being captive with real love he mentions that you will be captive by your own sins. And if it isn't taken care of, he explains that it will be much like ropes that catch you and hold on to you. You will be bound by lust, your wonderful looking girlfriend won't be the end, she will just be the beginning. It is better to fall to your knees for
help to crucify your flesh then to fall in the arms of what will simply not satisfy you for life but in the long run bind you to worldliness.
Proverbs 5:22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins; they are ropes that catch and hold him...